Top 4 Questions to Ask Before Getting a Divorce
Divorce is a serious decision that has the power to impact you emotionally, legally, and financially. Despite the risks and challenges that accompany divorce, sometimes it’s the best decision for both parties and any children involved.
Asking the right questions before you file for divorce can limit your risk if things get messy. If you’re considering divorce, it’s important to ask yourself these important questions:
- Have we sought help from a professional? If you’re in a non-abusive relationship that has proven to be unsatisfying for one or both spouses, there might still be a chance that you’re able to resolve your differences and reignite the spark you used to have. It’s very common to reach an impasse after years of marriage or struggle to get the romance that you once had back. If there’s a chance your marriage can still be salvaged, contact a therapist, clergyman, or counselor to help you work through your differences and move forward together.
- Do I feel safe? Although divorce can get messy, nobody should stay in an abusive marriage. If you or your children are in immediate danger, it’s important to reach out to the police and other local resources for the help you need to get out and get safe right away. If you aren’t in imminent danger, contact an attorney before you choose to vacate your home. An attorney can make sure you’ve taken the right measures to ensure your leaving doesn’t impact your ability to get custody of any children resulting from the relationship. An attorney can also help you file a restraining order and preserve your access to joint assets. Remember, you should contact an attorney before moving out if you aren’t in danger.
- Has either party had an extramarital affair? First and most important, if you have had an extramarital affair and you’re considering divorce, you should discuss it with your attorney before disclosing this information to anyone else, including your spouse. Adultery is illegal in almost half of all states and can impact your rights during the process. If your spouse has had an extramarital affair, it’s also important to share this information along with any evidence, such as text messages admitting to the affair, with your divorce attorney.
- Have I discussed my plans with a divorce lawyer? If you’re contemplating divorce, meeting with an attorney before you file for divorce or notify your spouse that you plan to file is a critical step in the process. Your attorney is best able to develop a strategy that protects your rights and assets when he or she is brought into the process early. Additionally, he or she can provide advice to help you decide whether legal separation or divorce is the best solution to resolve your problems.
If you feel confident that divorce is the only reasonable next step, begin scheduling consultation appointments with divorce attorneys in your area. Free consultations are hard to come by but can help you take the time to ask the right questions and hire the attorney who can best represent you during this difficult time.
When meeting with attorneys, these suggested questions can help you narrow down the pool and select the attorney who’s the best fit:
- Do you specialize in divorce cases?
- How do you approach divorce cases? Is your goal to fight and win or come to a mutual agreement that benefits both parties?
- What outcome do you predict in my case? Why?
- Do you have any concerns about my case?
- Are there any steps I can take now to protect myself and mitigate risk?
- How much can I expect to pay? How much do I need down? When will the remainder be due?
The attorneys at Infinity Law Group provide compassionate, competent legal representation in family law and divorce in Massachusetts. They provide free phone consultations to ensure you have an opportunity to learn more about their approach and experience before committing. To learn more, schedule your free phone consultation with Infinity Law Group in Boston today by visiting their website or calling 855-941-0909.